A fairly controversial question to start off with but as a mum of 2 very young children (3 yrs and 8 mths), there are times when I do wonder if my children are holding me back. There are times when I yearn for the freedom and flexibility of my childless days. When leaving the house didn’t take forever and a quick weekend getaway only involved packing a small bag and hitting the road!
When it comes to business, it can feel even more fraught. Fraught with the feeling like something’s always missing out – either the business, my husband or the children. I only have 3 hours in my business during the week and boy, I need to get a lot done in that time! My 3 yr old goes to creche for those 3 hours but my little girl is at home. So there’s some serious organising that needs to be done.
Can it be done?
That’s not to say it can’t be done. In the beginning, I was stressed out A LOT and I told myself all the stories about why I could not do it. I told myself that I didn’t have the right support or that I was not good enough. There were plenty of times when the overwhelm engulfed me and threatened to paralyse me. There were many times when I told myself that my children were holding me back.
Then I learned something very simple (but not easy). I learnt I didn’t need more time, what I needed was a rock solid foundation for my business. What I needed was laser-like focus, clarity and red-hot prioritisation.
I also learnt that it was my choice. I’ve always wanted to be a mum and I finally understood that when my babies are small, I need to nurture every moment and inhale them. They grow up so fast and then they head off on their own journey.
In the meantime, I need to do the best with where I am, what I have and what I know.
Sometimes, it’s about acceptance and surrendering. Yes, I have tiny time but I am learning to love every minute!